We only live ten minutes from each other and he's probably too scatter-brained to remember to mail a kiss every day haha, but cute idea for LDRs. Dude just to summarize what I think is the majority of the comments. I felt her fear, everything she's said, I said. It had been going on for years. I decided that if the church taught the general principle that couples should be married in the temple and that was not possible for me if I married this girlthen I should see if my choice would be an exception to the rule.
Having said that I'm not looking to get married any time soon, so no. She went ahead a married a non member. He knows how I feel about spending time together. This is something that's very important to her, and it's difficult to be married to someone who doesn't share the same values. Now he is into his second year, the schedule has improved some and so has his libido: I am married to an intern this is his first year residency, unfortunatley he didn't match so this is only a pre-lim year and now I know in my thoughts we may have to move again, so I get upset when I think why even try and get attached to the community, neighbors, new friends As humans we really need people in our lives especially in a time like this, although we might have to move again and go through the whole match process again there is still hope and there is still a very much needed assist with friends, and family in our lives. Some Mormons believe the Telestial Kingdom will be littered with spouses who refused to get baptized. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. I feel very discouraged. She cried when you proclaimed your love of goodness because, in part, it was a sign that you weren't broken and desperate for Mormonism. I can deal with the hours its when he comes home and is so burnt out it kills me.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. I will keep reading, but it looks like most of the stuff about racism and polygamy has been "adequately" explained away by updates to LDS. We have been together for almost 6 years, so I'm well aware of what I got into, but it can still be tough. He is a resident now, and I am a professor The problem is that we could not find a geographic location that could accommodate both of us, and this is a second year that we live apart, in two different states. How can I be more supportive. But I ultimately leave it to him most times. She will likely want you to convert to fix the family. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things.
Breaking up with someone solely because of religion is something people condemn alot on this sub when its a Mormon breaking it off with a non Mormon, but if floats both ways. I think more than anything, the thing that gets me is this feeling of being marginalized in his life. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth. Why is it up to the wife or girlfriend to make it work and face being lonely forever.