I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. Some of the guests talked about the importance of helping hard core mormons to be open and accepting to ALL their brothers and sisters in the church, regardless of sexual orientation. We have family prayer every day and read the scriptures occasionally. Although we're young, we've talked about marriage and the realities of everything. It seems like mormons in particular are even more crazy than the majority of crazy religious people, and the manipulation and treatment of people who wish to think for themselves and challenge their beliefs is really frightening. A lot of advice I get from others is that you need to build up hobbies and activities of your own so that I am not just waiting for him to give attention and have time for me. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. They're hidden pretty deep on LDS. I would show her this recent post for example: Her family will also be thinking about this and will talk to you about it when you spend time with them.




It's typical to not hear from him for weeks. I appreciate your honest, and I really like the way you phrased things, particularly this sentence: Thank you for your comments. Is your mind made up and you want justifying support. What goes on in those sacred temples. Mine was in California, back in the 70s. We are fighting and he has no patience which I understand but its really hard to accept for me because I feel like I need more from him out of the relationship. Love is what we do, not what we feel.
As someone born and raised in the church this has been very difficult to moderate and there is some social pressure to become more involved. But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. I am married to an interventional cardiologist. Found this blog just now after searching "married to a surgeon". Hence the suspicious quotes around "adequately. It's scary to feel like you might never measure up to someone's expectations you love. The fact that you bring your query to Joanna Brooks rather than church authorities reveals much. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else. Would I like to have him by my side. I alway understood and supported him so it was my way of being useful in the world, too.
Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. Back in the day, before I did the whole language thing, I worked in banking. Meanwhile, he'll be adored and revered and flirted with by divorced nurses who would jump in the sack with him at a moment's notice. Is it just the expectation that the SOs of people in these fields are on the backburner. If she can't or won't consider that the church is a lie, you need to move on because this relationship can't go anywhere. You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. While the Church allows dating at 16, it discourages serious relationships until you both are older and considering marriage. Seek advice, and like the chick said, talk and talk and talk untill its all sorted out in your mind, and in his.